I don't know how old you are, but no matter what age that is, if you have considered dating a woman in her 20s and 30s, then this is the article for you because I'm going to show you exactly what specifics you need to know about dating a woman of this age range. So, let's get down to it! There are three core things that differentiate a woman in her 20s and 30s from women that are in their 40s, 50s, and upwards. These differences will require you to focus on certain ways of interaction with her that will help you keep her interest and connect with her on a deeper level.
Younger women are usually still in the process of "shaping who they are". Therefore, your suggestions, listening, encouragement, and support are important to her.
Example: Say a younger woman you are dating is having trouble deciding on whether to take a new job offer. This may because she feels the new job appeals to a new sense of identity she is creating and her old job reflects an old one. I'm sure you have experienced the conflict that any kind of change brings about. During this time, it's important not to just tell her what you think she should do. This will only make her feel like you are trying to fix all her problems without fully understand all the things that are really going on. Therefore, you are more likely able to connect with her if you ask her what appeals to her about her new job. Reassure her that she will be able to make the right decision, and that she doesn't have to make a decision immediately. Let her know that you will support her decision no matter what. More often, she will feel your strength and presence come through as you are able to remain calm and supportive during this uncertain time for her. Doing that will be more than enough to make her feel safe, secure, and appreciative of having such a strong partner in her life.
Younger women usually have a reliance on the significant role models (whether that be a family member or friend) in their life. When you find out who this role model is and focus on cultivating a healthy relationship with this person, you can gain a deep sense of trust and intimacy with the woman you are dating. It will also be important in helping her develop boundaries so she can see how she can learn to be her own person and her own role model.
Example: When talking with a woman that you are interested in, ask her, "What person or situation has had the biggest impact on your life?", or "Who is the most important person to you?" Usually, she will be a little surprised but appreciative of you asking a question in which she can give a somewhat meaningful response. More than often, this role model is someone who is in her life. It may be a mother, a family friend, a girlfriend to whom she feels this attachment. If you focus some of your time and attention either relating or getting to know this person, it will provide for her a sense of social validation. What's most powerful is that you are now talking to the one person whose opinion is MOST important to the woman you are dating. Because women usually look to support from the people around them to go through life (especially when they are still finding their identity), knowing that this person also approves and likes you will heavily influence her perception of you as well.
Younger woman have a greater level of fickleness that can involve going back and forth between ideas in relationships, career, or points of view. To deal with this, make sure to be flexibly persistence in your approach; pay attention to her actions rather than her words; allow her to change her mind; and help her maintain and enforce her boundaries.
Example: Say a woman that you have been on a couple of dates with has been inconsistent with her availability. Meaning sometimes it's easy to get her on a date and other times it's really difficult. The important thing to apply here is flexible persistence. This means you still pursue her, but change up "how" you ask her out and "what" you are asking her out for. So instead of texting her to ask her out for coffee a week from now, you could try calling her out of the blue and inviting her out to meet you somewhere later that night.
If you find she texts you back but doesn't pick up your calls (and you want to speak to her), then call her straight after she has texted you back (she will be right by her phone and have to think very creatively to come up with a reason why she didn't pick up the phone). The point is: don't take her fickle actions as a personal attack. It may just take her a little longer to come to a decision about how she feels about you.
While dating younger women can seem like a little more effort, it can become a lot easier when you understand the reasons why they do the things they do. Therefore, keeping these three things in mind such as: encouraging the cultivation of her identity, connecting with a significant role model in her life, and being flexible in your approach, you have simple yet effective ways to date and relate with a younger woman in her 20s and 30s.
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1) Listen, support, and encourage her
Younger women are usually still in the process of "shaping who they are". Therefore, your suggestions, listening, encouragement, and support are important to her.
Example: Say a younger woman you are dating is having trouble deciding on whether to take a new job offer. This may because she feels the new job appeals to a new sense of identity she is creating and her old job reflects an old one. I'm sure you have experienced the conflict that any kind of change brings about. During this time, it's important not to just tell her what you think she should do. This will only make her feel like you are trying to fix all her problems without fully understand all the things that are really going on. Therefore, you are more likely able to connect with her if you ask her what appeals to her about her new job. Reassure her that she will be able to make the right decision, and that she doesn't have to make a decision immediately. Let her know that you will support her decision no matter what. More often, she will feel your strength and presence come through as you are able to remain calm and supportive during this uncertain time for her. Doing that will be more than enough to make her feel safe, secure, and appreciative of having such a strong partner in her life.
2) Connect with a significant role model in her life
Younger women usually have a reliance on the significant role models (whether that be a family member or friend) in their life. When you find out who this role model is and focus on cultivating a healthy relationship with this person, you can gain a deep sense of trust and intimacy with the woman you are dating. It will also be important in helping her develop boundaries so she can see how she can learn to be her own person and her own role model.
Example: When talking with a woman that you are interested in, ask her, "What person or situation has had the biggest impact on your life?", or "Who is the most important person to you?" Usually, she will be a little surprised but appreciative of you asking a question in which she can give a somewhat meaningful response. More than often, this role model is someone who is in her life. It may be a mother, a family friend, a girlfriend to whom she feels this attachment. If you focus some of your time and attention either relating or getting to know this person, it will provide for her a sense of social validation. What's most powerful is that you are now talking to the one person whose opinion is MOST important to the woman you are dating. Because women usually look to support from the people around them to go through life (especially when they are still finding their identity), knowing that this person also approves and likes you will heavily influence her perception of you as well.
3) Be flexibly persistence in your approach
Younger woman have a greater level of fickleness that can involve going back and forth between ideas in relationships, career, or points of view. To deal with this, make sure to be flexibly persistence in your approach; pay attention to her actions rather than her words; allow her to change her mind; and help her maintain and enforce her boundaries.
Example: Say a woman that you have been on a couple of dates with has been inconsistent with her availability. Meaning sometimes it's easy to get her on a date and other times it's really difficult. The important thing to apply here is flexible persistence. This means you still pursue her, but change up "how" you ask her out and "what" you are asking her out for. So instead of texting her to ask her out for coffee a week from now, you could try calling her out of the blue and inviting her out to meet you somewhere later that night.
If you find she texts you back but doesn't pick up your calls (and you want to speak to her), then call her straight after she has texted you back (she will be right by her phone and have to think very creatively to come up with a reason why she didn't pick up the phone). The point is: don't take her fickle actions as a personal attack. It may just take her a little longer to come to a decision about how she feels about you.
While dating younger women can seem like a little more effort, it can become a lot easier when you understand the reasons why they do the things they do. Therefore, keeping these three things in mind such as: encouraging the cultivation of her identity, connecting with a significant role model in her life, and being flexible in your approach, you have simple yet effective ways to date and relate with a younger woman in her 20s and 30s.
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